I have a confession to make...
I've come out of the Woo-Woo-closet a few months ago.
The thing is, I'm not sure either.
I still have a healthy(?) dose of skepticism - and always had - and I'm not sure yet, if it's true or not, or if it's just collective imagination. But I want to believe it's true because sometimes you have experiences that are a little out of the ordinary. And frankly, it's nicer to think that there's more than we think there is.
You probably know those stories from people who experience strange phenomenons, coincidences, or random encounters that change the course of their lives.
Depending on what they stand for, they call it simple coincidences, destiny, statistics, hard work, or the law of attraction.
And maybe it's all of the above.
Whether you belong to the fraction of people who don't doubt for a minute that it's true. Or you think it's a bunch of crap and those people are lying. Or you think, they believe in it, but they somehow just focus on what they want to see. Or you think it's a possibility but you don't believe it a hundred percent yet.
So, I'm going to be straight with this: I belong to the last category. I see it as a possibility and I'm open to it, but I haven't much proof for it, and there is a part of me that thinks it could be just a fairy tale.
The thing is, if you haven't had experienced it yourself, it's impossible to prove it to yourself. Even if you had, you could still doubt it and you couldn't convince people who don't believe in it anyway.
For now, you can't measure it, like you would measure radioactivity or microwaves.
And that's what belief is all about. Whether you believe it or not, whether you're the most woo-woo person or the most scientific and logical person you know (I get that there's something in between), you cannot prove it, you still believe. Besides, being scientific and logical doesn't exclude believing and having intuitions. But that's another topic.
In the end, you always choose what you believe, even unconsciously. If you want to find proof that something is real, you will (an example would be conspiracy theories, which, ironically for some, turned out to be correct). If you want to find proof something doesn't exist or isn't true, you will as well. It's called confirmation bias - and I have an amazing upcoming online training to help you get things done, that also talks about it.
But as long as there isn't a tangible scientific proof for something (and even that can be difficult), or you hadn't an unambiguous experience of it, it remains a supposition, not a certainty.
However, now that I have established the framework of this article, let's continue with a little story I want to tell you...
The day where my "inner voice" literally saved my life.
About one year ago, my "inner voice" literally saved my life.
Here is what happened:
I was sitting at my desk writing early in the morning and hadn't showered yet. I asked myself if I should go for a run or go shower. Normally, I would wake up, put my running shoes on and go for a run.
But this was one of those mornings, where I felt like starting writing right away, without breakfast, getting dressed, and just with coffee.
So, as I sat at my desk and was having a short internal dialogue, and asked myself if I should go for a run, or go shower now (never do that by the way, just go for a run ;-)), a voice spoke to me in my head. And it didn't sound like it was coming from me. It was something very neutral that just told me:
"No, go take a shower now."
Nothing was emotional, bossy, or panicky about it, it was just very resolute.
I didn't even ask myself if it was me or not, it was like an automatism.
So, I chose my outfit for the day - everything ordered by the color of course - and took a shower.
At that time, the apartment above ours was being renovated. So, it was noise and things falling down on the ground of the apartment above us 24/7, so that I had to work with earplugs or music all the time.
After having showered, I went back to my desk, and just as I have completely focused on my work again (30-45 minutes after showering) I heard a HUGE blast. The renovation work was loud all the time, but I had never heard anything so loud within the past few weeks where the construction workers were working above us.
So, I thought, "Okay, I don't know what they're doing up there, but boy, I don't know for how long we have to endure this if we don't move out of the apartment soon."
Long story short, someone rang at the door.
It was one of the construction workers who stand in my doorstep, white as a sheet, and asked me if everything was okay.
"Yes, why?" I asked back.
And then he asked for permission to enter and open the door of the bathroom, where the ceiling had fallen down, and with it, 3 bricks directly above the shower.
In other words, would I have been standing under it 30 minutes earlier, I would have been dead, or at least, seriously injured.
Of course, you can always explain what seems to be "Woo-Woo" with "rational" argumentation and the other way around...
So, why am I telling you this story?
Because this all thing to prove it on not prove it depends on what you believe yourself. Besides, you have to admit that it's a strange coincidence.
Now, I know if you are spiritual you're probably annoyed by the connotation of the word woo-woo itself, and then think "Duh! Do you need more proof?!"
But the thing is, I still have a part of me that thinks that maybe I reconstructed the story like this in my head. Trying to make sense of it, my brain tricked me into thinking that my inner voice - aka my higher self - whispered to me at that moment and literally saved my life.
But I have a vivid memory of a voice who would tell me to go shower now.
I had also other coincidences in my life. Things I feared or sensed and happened. For example, the death of our teacher in primary school. We were waiting for him at a rehearsal and I made a macabre joke about it about it with a feeling it could be true, and it turned out it was. The death of my father a few days before, and so many other things.
But also positive things. Things I wished that happened at some point. Not exactly as I would have pictured them but most of the time, those were wishes were I was relaxed about the outcome. Just fleeting thoughts that I wasn't extremely attached to.
And if you were absolutely woo-woo, you would immediately think of the law of attraction.
The point is, we could talk about it for hours and wouldn't find a common denominator, since we all have our own way of perceiving the world.
As I said previously if you want to believe in something, you will, if not you won't.
And believing is a powerful tool. It can be destructive or it can leverage your way of thinking and help you make good things happen.
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How to make self-fulfilling prophecy, the R.A.S. or/and the Woo-Woo work for you.
So, let's say you belong to one of those three categories:
You're a total believer, a half-assed-believer (or a "why not?") like me, or a non-believer.
In any case, we are more complex than we think. There is a certain amount of confusion or lack of clarity within us sometimes.
And I'm convinced that most people believe in something. Whether they have faith "in life" (yes, this disturbing entity made of living beings, objects, elements, and physical laws we call "life"), or in their good or bad fortune, or in themselves. or in coincidence. I haven't met a single human being yet (myself included) who had a whole belief system that sounded (Thank God, I can hear what people tell me and not read minds) entirely comprehensible, logical, and verifiable.
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Of course, some people are more logical than others, but every one of us has a belief system.
A lot of people still run around on autopilot. And yes, I know how arrogant that sounds, but I stand by what I say. And no, I haven't hold worldwide statistics on this.
The point is, that, in the end, it doesn't matter what you believe, as long as it's mostly positive and you're not hurting other people and yourself with it.
Now, hold on!
I know it's more complicated than that. Sometimes you hurt people without intending to do it. Sometimes you think you're doing the right thing or have a positive impact, when, in fact, you don't. There are as many values and belief systems as they are people on this planet. Why might sound right to someone, might sound wrong to someone else.
That said, just to be clear, I get that with this argumentation, you could never position yourself clearly on anything. And don't get me wrong, I have values and opinions myself.
What it all comes down to in this article is to ask yourself the following regularly:
- Is this belief empowering me? And ideally others (but not a must)?
- Or is this belief diminishing me? And possibly others?
An example of a disempowering belief for yourself would be: "It's never going to work for me." You'll act (or not act) in accordance to that belief and find proof for it every time you try something new or want to overcome challenges.
An example of a diminishing belief that could impact others (and you by the way) is to think that everybody is against you. If you think that, you're going to behave and filter information in a such a way, that you will search and find proof for your belief.
So, thinking it's "you against them" isn't going to make you particularly successful and certainly not happy.
Especially because there is no such thing as "them." There is "us."
If you want to watch something that talks about the subject of seeing yourself as separate from others, watch the legendary commencement speech by David Foster Wallace "This is Water" on YouTube.
That said, we all have a "me vs. them"- phases in our lives. For example, when you think about "the people" who are always trying to give the responsibility for their actions to others but at the same time are the first ones to claim their greatness when something worked out. Come on, you know who I mean 😉 I'm guilty of being annoyed by this regularly.
It's all so simple. And at the same time, complicated and difficult. Because all of it involves consequences and coherency. And if you've ever tried to be coherent and consequent in the past, you know it's:
- Not easy.
- It can lead to a fanatical, tyrannical, and unflexible way of thinking and acting.
Now I get, that torturing yourself mentally about existential questions in your head that have no simple answers, isn't always what's going to make you come forward. But it doesn't hurt to train that muscle from time to time.
So, how to make a self-fulfilling prophecy, the R.A.S., and the Woo-Woo work for you?
Oh yes... I almost forgot to give you understandable definitions - especially regarding the R.A.S.
So, a self-fulfilling prophecy is when you believe in something and make it happen because of your behavior.
Let's say, a psychic would tell you that you will never find love...
If you're sensitive to negative prophecies, it's a possibility that you're going to try stumble upon the wrong partner, over and over again, or even stay with someone at any price, just to prove yourself you can have lasting relationships. Or you will not even try to find someone in the first place.
What "woo-woo" means is probably clear to most English native speakers, but if you're a non-native speaker, here is a definition of the Urban Dictionary:
"Theories such as energy work, crystal magic, Reiki, bizarrely restrictive diets, or supernatural/paranormal/psychic occurrences; often has studied in an authentic religious tradition such as Hinduism or Zen Buddhism, but now practices an Eastern-influenced yet severely watered-down and Westernized pseudo-mysticism;" (Here is the rest of the definition.)
Just as a side note, Christianity (and probably every religious movement) was considered "pseudo" at some point in History. Someone who was convincing enough started a movement. That's all. Christianity for example was considered a sect at the time of the Roman Empire.
"Woo-Woo" still has a negative connotation but is more and more used by people who are "woo-woo" themselves. I love the word. Because it sounds playful to me.
Finally, the R.A.S. stands for Reticular Activating System.
There is a place at the base of our brain which is called the Reticular Activating System who takes care of filtering unnecessary information in order to keep you sane (imagine if you could perceive and remember everything that's happening around you at any time?!) and help you concentrate on what you want (need) to focus on.
If you set yourself a goal, for example, your brain will filter all information that isn't relevant to your goal and help you seek for solutions.
It's a real neurological phenomenon. And could be a scientific explanation of the law of attraction.
And just in case, you're completely new to that hypothesis (or belief), the law of attraction is a belief, that you attract everything that happens to you. The good, the bad, the ugly. It's based on the premise that:
- The universe is self-conscious
- It mirrors everything. In particularly your vibrations. Aka, the way you feel.
To make self-fulfilling prophecy (which is merely meant as something negative, but in this article as positive), the R.A.S., or the law of attraction work for you, you need to hold on to the smallest positive clue or hope you have (no matter what) and hold on to it like a maniac.
Because hand on your heart, what's the alternative?
Can't you have a good life without believing in any of this "crap"? Of course, but allow me to be very skeptical about the statement that you believe in nothing. And yes, believing in bad or good things (I get that there's room for interpretation here), believing in yourself or love, does count.
If you're still here, you still have some kind of motivation and hope. Survival instinct or not.
Do you risk to be delusional if you hold on to your smallest beliefs like a maniac?
Maybe, but allow me to repeat myself: What's the alternative?
Believing that nothing will ever work, "people" are evil, and we're just confused meat bags running around?!
What's the point?
So the answer to how to make the Woo-Woo or any other belief work for you is 42.
Just kidding. It's kind of trivial... *DRUM ROLL*
Follow every hint you can and hold on to every smallest positive belief you have.
If you still are here, it means a (wise?) part of you hasn't given up yet and you believe there's more waiting for you in this life. Even if you're running on autopilot right now. Please hold on to your smallest positive hopes, make them bigger, and possibly act on them.
Because, what do you have to lose? Being disappointed? You will be for sure if you don't try in the first place.
Much love <3